The Single Life

Have you ever encountered someone who intrigued you to moment you met them? Someone that immediately you knew you wanted to know more about? You decide to take the chance and try to learn more about them. Gradually maybe you do start to develop something with the thought that maybe that person will be the answer to that illusive something that has been missing, whether as a girlfriend or boyfriend or just a plain old friend. Maybe they will add that excitement or become that companion you have been missing. Either way you learn more about them and begin to question what drew you to them in the first place. Hopefully you find that missing link. If not then it just makes you realize that maybe you need to be looking for something different.

In an extended sense, does this not also apply to long term relationships? When those relationships come to a point where you just question why that certain someone held your interest for so long. How do you let go of all that time and energy you invested into that relationship, when you still may have some sort of feelings for them? Is it that the relationship is just lacking the excitement it once had or maybe that the boredom have festered into something that no longer can be shocked to life.

A girlfriend and I were recently talking over dinner about relationships and being single. We realize that each situation has its own set of challenges but deep down we really wish that they didn’t. That is in the sense that how does one meet someone these days? One of our friends advertises in the personal section on Craigslist. Not for us. Picking up some random guy at the bar. Not for us either. Meeting someone at work. Definitely not likely. You see, we are still stuck with the question of where to go and what to do about meeting new people.

We both want something more from our lives and to fill that gap of companionship with someone more than a friend. But there seems to be no real way to find that one special person that really appeals to us. Is it that we are being too picky? I’m not sure. What I am sure about however is that need that constantly keeps me thinking that something is lacking in my life. Occasionally it can be filled with dinner with a friend or a night in reading a good book, but that is only a small solution to this growing need.

Now some of you may be thinking that maybe it’s just my biological clock telling me to hurry up and meet the right guy. I can assure you it’s not that. It’s not that I want to find someone to have kids with; I am in no hurry for that. I just want someone to be with, someone to love and someone to cherish and have that someone feel that way about me as well. Maybe it’s selfish, but knowing what love was like at in my teens, I want that again. I want that feeling of completion and belonging that once felt, it’s hard to not want it again. At this point I would even settle for infatuation. (Though a celebrity crush is hardly enough to be considered as infatuation when you don’t even know that person.)